How to Know Who A Guy Is Before You Waste Your Time By Using Tarot

You can pull the cards I mention below from a Rider Waite Tarot Deck and it will work just fine without all the cards to find out about your guy. Even if you don’t know anything about tarot you can do this!

In Tarot, some minor arcana cards represent a person in your life that might pop up several times. These cards mark who they are and what they’re about.  For instance, if my question was about family and my uncle was a major part of my life, he might be shown in the cards as the King of Cups  and may show up every time I ask a question about family or about him in particular.

A card may appear reverse or upside down and change if they are upset or experiencing some type of emotional difficulty such as the King of Swords Reversed. But, typically the cards will only switch to three types of cards for one person unless they are really emotional then the cards will be all over the place.


My ex-boyfriend would always show up as the Knight of Cups or the King of Cups when things were well but when we were about to get into an argument he would either turn into the King of Cups Reversed or the King of Swords.

So, let’s find out what these cards really mean and how to identify their personalities.

In this article, I will discuss Cups, Swords and Pentacles on the levels of King, Knight and Page. They are cards in the Major Arcana that can also represent a male presence such as the Emperor, The Priest and occasionally the Justice card but I will stick to the minor Arcana. Yes, I know I left out the Wands. I didn’t want this article to be too long so I left those out.

The Cups

The King of Cups is a sweetheart when he is upright. He is loving, kind, gently and good with children. His heart is open and is willing to share his world with the people around him.  When a guy appears this way, he is a good person to their core. BUT its up to them if they want to express who they really are or not. If they suppress their emotions or refuse to show what they are really feeling they can quickly turn to the King of Cups Reversed and sometimes lash out or start petty arguments.  The King of Cups Reversed may also play the blame game because he usually does not take responsibility of his own actions.


The Knight of Cups is fickle, too sensitive and moody despite his romantic exterior.  The problem is he bounces back in forth quickly from loving to cold. It can be really confusing for his love partner who feels that his moodiness has something to do with them. The Knight of Cups Reversed is worse. This means he is self-absorb and tends to do things based on if it will benefit him in some way or another.

cups12knight of cups reversed

The Page of Cups can be immature OR playful (it depends what cards are next to it). He usually flirts and say sweet things that make your heart light up. He is not shy about expressing his feelings and it is very genuine. The Page of Cups Reversed can be brutal with his words some might say even verbally abusive. Instead of showing the best of himself, the Page of Cups Reversed shows his worst side.

cups11page of cups reversed

The Swords

The King of Swords is a thinker and analytical. He is very good decision maker and mainly because he puts aside his emotions to do what is right. However, when it comes to love, the King of Swords does not allow his emotions to be shared. He may choose to keep his real feelings to himself and if there is love in his heart he will choose to not express it until he feels it is practical. The King of Swords Reversed is controlling and sometimes will show up with the 5 of Wands which means defensive.  Once the King of Swords is Reversed things must go his way and he will argue or fight to make it happen. Even if he doesn’t use brute force, he will choose in someway to manipulate the situation almost passive aggressively.

swords14king of swords reverse

The Knight of Swords is a go-getter. Sometimes he rushes into things before making sure he gets all of the facts. The Knight of Swords also jumps to conclusions, a lot. If this card is next to the Knight of Cups then he is jumping to conclusions based off his insecurity. The Knight of Swords Reversed have anxiety issues and normally can’t “be still” to find the right path. Anxiety hurts his chances to have success in many areas not just in love. He may be indecisive and choose things that are seemingly safe versus the right thing to do.

swords12knight of swords reverse

Page of Swords fight the good fight and will go forward to do what needs to be done. This could be speaking up for himself or a lover. But unlike the Knight of Swords he thinks before leaping. The Page of Swords is good at writing thoughts out, whether it is through messages, college exams or a novel. The Page of Sword Reversed means he will miscommunicate his thoughts and have a hard time expressing what they really mean. He can also be a stalker and overly expressing his thoughts to try to be heard or accepted by the one he desires.


The Pentacles

The King of Pentacles will do what he must do to support his family. He is usually good a managing money. I’ve also seen in my experience as a tarot reader, this guy as a supervisor, manager or own his own business. He is reliable in all aspects of life. He rarely is seen without a job or some type of business to bring income. The King of Pentacles Reversed is beaten by the loss of his money or financial stability. He is at his lowest due to losing something he has worked hard for.  He might have low self-esteem and feels there is no use trying. He might choose any job over waiting to find something more suitable for his experience and skills.

pents14king of pentacles reversed

The Knight of Pentacles is a truly committed person whether it is work, friends or lover. He brings good fortune with him and feels most comfortable in long-term relationships. The problem is that he can be too stubborn and be pessimistic about his view of the world. He’s a hard worker and will see what ever task he is given to the end. The Knight of Pentacles Reversed is not interested in a committed relationship at all. He may choose to walk away from a relationship due to having enough and feels it is no longer working in his favor.

pents12knight of pentacles reversed

Page of Pentacles is looking for what is shinny and new. He may desire a trophy girl or wife that looks good over someone who has a great personality. He looks for physical aspects of a woman as far as nice clothes, great makeup and what he feels is a sexy body. The Page of Pentacles may also look for someone that he thinks have value such as a woman that makes good money. Watch out for this guy because he may see you as his possession and not an equal partner. The Page of Pentacles Reversed may not see his own worth in life. He may lose sight of his goals and become lazy not feeling as though he has to contribute to the relationship or his financial status.

pents11page of pentacles reversed

In Summary

You can get a pretty good picture of the guy you are interested in with the cards above. If any of these cards pop up in a 3 count or a 4 count tarot spread, it is possible that you can save yourself the hassle of being with a guy that will never give his all or on the bright side, feel comfortable that you bagged a good one.

You can learn how to put all of this together in a spread, and it includes the Wands,  even if you don’t know anything about tarot at all. Check out this quick video: DIY Tarot: Find Out What Type of Guy He is

What to Do When The Guy You’re Dating Stops Talking – Through Tarot

The following is a conversation I had with a client. Yes, she gave me permission to use her situation in order to help with an unfortunately popular issue among women who are dating or dealing with their boyfriends. The names have been changed to protect their identity.

Hey Leela. How are you? – Tarot Reader

I’m hurtin’. I’m not going to lie. – Client

Why? What happened? – Tarot Reader

It’s Jacob. Everything was going great. We got so close and he just stopped communicating. Like I could feel something was wrong before he stopped cuz the way he text was not his usually loving self.  I just don’t know what to do. – Client


Have you asked him what was going on? -Tarot Reader

Yes. Well, at first, I tried to get him to talk to me over the phone or have him come over so we can discuss it face to face, but he avoided me. So, I text him and said I was triggered by him not communicating with me and I’m concerned about our distance. I told him if something came up for him and if he wants to talk to me about that I would be here for him.  He didn’t respond.

Wow. Just went ghost like that? – Tarot Reader

Yeah. I cried because it just made me feel like something was wrong with me.  Maybe, I’m a hopeful romantic and want to see something that isn’t there. He said all that sweet stuff to me. He’s the one that said “I’m all yours” several times and confessed that he truly cared for me. He was always mushy and saying sweet stuff to me all day and every day. – Client

Don’t let it get to you. Put your head up. Shake it off. You will find some one that won’t just walk away when things get tough. As far as I can see in the cards, he is dealing with some stress at home (9 of swords) or work (8 of Pentacles Reversed) and didn’t want you to know (Page of Swords Reversed). – Tarot Reader

swords098 of pentacles reversepage-of-swords-reversed

I’m trying. You told me last time I called you that he’s dealing with emotions from his ex wife (King of Cups Reversed), he’s stressed out at work. You said that he will contact me this Saturday, but why would I want someone that would just ghost me?  Not a word. Not even, “I’m sorry I can’t talk to you right now, I’m going through some things. I will get back with you when I can.” Cuz that to me would be respectful or at least considerate.  It’s not like I gave up sex to him and now he got what he wants. All we did was kiss. – Client


I get it. It seems to me you guys got really close in a short time (2 of Cups). He was able to be vulnerable with you about his feelings and probably never had that experience before (Ace of Cups). More feelings for you developed and he got scared thinking about how his ex wife had hurt him (6 of Cups Reversed and 3 of Swords). Instead of facing it he just dropped the ball (Emperor Reversed). I understand you not wanting to talk to him after he hasn’t communicated in 3 days but consider that it may be an opportunity to get some closure so when the next guy comes you won’t sabotage it with this hurt you are experiencing. – Tarot Reader

cups02aceofcups6 of cups reversedswords03

Yeah. A part of me wants to just lay some rules down and then try again slowly. But to be honest I told him upfront that I have to have consistent communication. We both discussed that if there was a problem that we would talk to each other about it first before it festers. It’s like that entire week of deep conversation was a waste of time. Like I was talking to myself. – Client

A part of you wants control. (Queen of Swords Reversed) You think if you can control the situation things will be better the next round. But the truth is, as Maya Angelou says, “People will show you who they are.  Believe them the first time.”

queen of swords reverse

If he has issues with old emotions popping up, stress in his life or any other problems, that has nothing to do with you. It’s way too early for you to have to deal with his baggage. I understand you guys got close and you want to have a relationship with him, but things that are this deep, where it causes you stop talking to someone you have feelings for, takes a long time to recover from. It may take him another year or longer.  Let me add, it also depends on how he approaches you on Saturday. For instance, if he comes to you playing like nothing happen. NO. That’s not cool. So, you might have to say your good-bye to him. But, if he comes to you and says, “Hey Leela, I really am sorry for disappearing like that. I was so stressed out and dealing with old emotions that I couldn’t even think straight. I’d like to try again, if you allow me to and discuss a possible future with you. Also, I want to make this up to you. I know I hurt you and I will do my very best never to do it again.” From what I can see in the cards, it could be either situations (Page of Cups).


Now, that’s a man that is willing and ready for change. Not the first response. The first one, is a person that is in denial and will keep stepping back when life gets too hard. – Tarot Reader

So, basically I might have to let him completely go Saturday. I understand. – Client

Well, what do you want? Like, if you can have anything you want at all from the relationship between you and Jacob what would it be? – Tarot Reader

I’d want that second response that is empathetic to how I feel. I’d want a straight up answer on what happened and why. I also would like to have a deep love connection with him in a healthy and long term relationship. I mean, I thought that is what I created originally when he showed up. There was so much chemistry and attraction it blew us both away. So, I thought ok..this is what I asked for.  – Client


Ok, If you knew right now, that this long and healthy relationship is what was going to happen between the two of you in the near future, how would you respond to him on Saturday? – Tarot Reader

I’d still address my concerns but not in a controlling way like I was thinking I would from the beginning. I’d approach him with much more kindness and nurturing because heck…we all have been triggered before. And, I personally been triggered and stressed out to the point where I stopped talking to my friends for a week. – Client

Right, and good for you for seeing this at a different angle and willing to be a nurturing guide for him while he is dealing with these ‘new emotions’.

You told me that he hasn’t been with anyone in 3 years! Just imagine, all that time, no affection, no good conversation, no nurturing, no hot woman desiring you….I mean nothing! On top of that feeling lonely and starting to feel you will never find anyone again. Then all of a sudden you meet this beautiful person inside and out. Like, you got to pinch yourself to wake up because it feels like you are dreaming. Your last relationship, although 3 years ago, was a nightmare all the way to the end. So, to your surprise this person is easy – no drama …just straight goodness. Wouldn’t you eventually be hesitant? It just pulls at your heart strings. He might need some time to adjust to such a huge contrast.


Now, I’m not saying he’s right for what he did. Yes, he could have been like, “ok..I need some time to figure out my emotions. I’ll text you when I’ve figured it out.” But, he didn’t. I’m just saying be compassionate to what is going on in another person’s life. Don’t allow this experience to turn you into someone you’re not- cold or worst, a narcissist. You’ll just end up carrying that and destroying anything that is possibly good in your future.

To end your confusion, it’s simple. Right now, concentrate on being the best of yourself – that nurturing and kind person you are. Rather he comes straight out and says he apologizes with details or he plays off like nothing happened, you must be your best. You might have to be ready to tell him that you can’t see him anymore because you deserve better and you do! You deserve a man that has already handled his “demons” or at least willing to work them all out with you.  Either way, you walk away with confidence and with your head up not in pain or regret. – Tarot Reader

Would you like a love reading from a professional that will tell you what is about to happen AND tell you what to do about it?  Go here:

Psychics Predict Good News for Love and Money in 2018

During the beginning of the New Year we receive a lot of questions about what is going to happen in 2018. The questions are mostly about love and finances which is totally understandable.  As humans we are creatures that love to connect with one another. A stable finance is extremely important for  survival in our world. Acknowledging these facts, two psychics from made a few predictions about what will happen according to tarot, psychic energy and a dash of astrology.

BANDRA K  - Professional Tarot Reader and Master Reiki Healer
BANDRA K – Professional Tarot Reader and Master Reiki Healer

Love Prediction

First, most of us know that we just had a powerful “full moon on January 1, 2018 which was also in Cancer. This first moon of 2018 is also known as the Wolf Moon & is a powerful Super Moon. Finally, we are out of Mercury’s shadow & that means things will feel like they are moving again. We are more confident, more intuitive. Feeling more grounded,” says Bandra K., a tarot reader and reiki healer.


“Thanks to Venus, love is in the air. Attraction is strong and there is an increased need & desire for love. There is a craving more safety & security in the world. It is a time to focus on compassion,… forgiveness, empathy & affection,” Bandra continues to explain.

Bandra also warns everyone to “be leery of emotional decisions, exaggerated feelings and powerful emotions.”

Jessica B. - Expert Psychic and Tarot Reader
Jessica B. – Expert Psychic and Tarot Reader

Financial Prediction

Jessica, an expert psychic and tarot reader adds, “Financially, it may seem that you don’t have many options this year to increase your money flow.  It is important to watch those emotions and not allow too much fantasizing about having it all. Suppressing any fear is definitely a ‘no no’ in 2018 because it will block focus on what is presently in front of us – our truest desire and financial freedom.”


“I’m seeing a lot of past failures stirring up trouble mentally and emotionally as many of us will choose to step into a new job and business experiences that we never thought were possible. In spite of these fears, we can harness them and maintain peace, go with the flow type attitudes as well as have patience. Success won’t appear all at once but gradually. I see more of a consistent movement of financial energy than a big bang. By November and December make sure you are able to look back at those opportunities that were offered to you in June/July and be proud that you dived in feet first. You will have to say “yes” more than saying “no”. Taking on the ‘newness’ of your experience will set the stage for 2019 which I’m seeing will be even more epic depending on your willingness. So, make it count in 2018,” Jessica reports.


“2018 has great potential. The month of January begins with a full, super moon & ends with a lunar eclipse. Take time to reflect on what no longer serves your greater good. Use the power (of this year’s full moon phases) to release the past. Let go of anything holding you back because it is a good year to set goals & conquer them.” – Bandra K. is not just another psychic or tarot network, it is a legendary leader with its bold impacts on healing, nurturing and accurate predictions. Get answers today by going here: